Comments on: Chandra Ryan’s Truths and Consequences

By: stacey smith

stacey smith — Wed, 05 May 2010 07:10:42 +0000

I wish my Mother new that.she is always getting in trouble and not taking responsibility for here actions i wounder if all alcoholics are like that.
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By: chandraryan

chandraryan — Tue, 04 May 2010 16:51:14 +0000

I love the golden rule! And it’s one we’re trying really hard to teach our children as well. They, however, have tried to convince me that if we treat people how we want to be treated then we should treat others the way they treat us. So I hear, ‘but he pinched me so I figured must want to be pinched’. We call it child logic

By: Cheryl Bradley

Cheryl Bradley — Tue, 04 May 2010 14:10:24 +0000

My mom was always stressing the Golden Rule: Treat others as you’d like to be treated. I know she was right about that one!

By: chandraryan

chandraryan — Tue, 04 May 2010 03:38:32 +0000

Hey I was right

By: chandraryan

chandraryan — Tue, 04 May 2010 03:37:23 +0000

That is very wise of him. Taking responsibility is hard. There are days I feel like I just can’t be responsible for one more decision. Those are the days that my husband gets to pick what we’re having for supper

I’m not sure I know what ‘CYA’ stands for, but I think I have a good guess. I’m off to google to find out if I’m right.

By: Milinda

Milinda — Tue, 04 May 2010 02:26:08 +0000

The only real pieces of wisdom I got came from my Dad and those came after I reached adulthood: Always take responsibility for your own actions. That and “CYA.” Of course, he had to explain what that meant too.

That said, I’m stealing your Mom’s words of wisdom and hanging them on my wall. Those are wise indeed.

By: chandraryan

chandraryan — Tue, 04 May 2010 00:01:31 +0000

Thank you. I love the cover. Kanaxa, the artist, did such a fantastic job.

I think it’s so true that you get back what you put into life. Some day that’s harder for me to remember than others I’ve also found that people often treat you the way you treat them…not always, but often. I’m not sure if my mom ever wished children just like me on me, I don’t think she did. That might be how I ended up with two boys

By: Sue Brandes

Sue Brandes — Mon, 03 May 2010 22:39:25 +0000

My mama always said, “What comes around goes around.” And it could come back to bite you in the butt so watch what you do or say. I was taught a lot of great things but’ didn’t really learn them to well till I got on my own. LOL. I was told the one about having your own kids too. LOL. I always tell my daughter that her daughter is just like her. LOL. Your book cover is beautiful. Cannot wait to read it. Thanks for the interview.

By: chandraryan

chandraryan — Mon, 03 May 2010 21:06:14 +0000

We’re still trying to teach our kids how to handle money. That’s a tough one, especially with everything being plastic now. How do you teach them the value of something that seems as easy as sliding a piece of plastic through a machine? And she was a very smart lady to teach you that you learn through your mistakes. If I wasn’t a firm believer in that one I’d probably never do anything for fear of messing up.

By: Robin S

Robin S — Mon, 03 May 2010 21:01:21 +0000

I think the one thing I can remember that Mom taught was the value of responsibility and that despite wanting to have books, videos or clothes that household bills came first. If they were paid then I could do whatever I wanted with my monies because I earned it. I didn’t always like it but I lived it the way Mom taught me. Another thing I remember is that mistakes were okay because they taught us valuable lessons. I should never feel shamed because I made a mistake because no one but God lead a perfect life.

By: chandraryan

chandraryan — Mon, 03 May 2010 21:01:07 +0000

LOL! A laughing mother is the best kind in my opinion

By: jennifer mathis

jennifer mathis — Mon, 03 May 2010 20:46:58 +0000

my mama always said i was sane once then i had kids and i always laughed and now i have kids and yes i feel a little nutty lol
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By: chandraryan

chandraryan — Mon, 03 May 2010 20:35:34 +0000

Thanks for the congrats and for the wonderful piece of wisdom. Generosity is a good way to live! And there can never be too much of it in the world. Even if you don’t have have any extra money, volunteering or even listening to a friend who’s had a crummy day can be such a blessing.

By: chandraryan

chandraryan — Mon, 03 May 2010 20:29:29 +0000

That’s probably one of the most difficult, but also one of the best lessons to learn. It can be really tempting to give up on something that’s difficult, but the reward of mastering it and knowing it was difficult is one of the sweetest feelings in the world.

By: chandraryan

chandraryan — Mon, 03 May 2010 20:23:28 +0000

Too true! There have been several times I thought I had my life figured out only to have it do a 180 on me. But you keep soldering on and somehow it seems to find a way to work out. It’s amazing.

By: chandraryan

chandraryan — Mon, 03 May 2010 20:20:12 +0000

What a great piece of advice, especially living in a time of constant media bombardment. I sometimes wonder how any children find their own voice. But I guess that’s what parents are for, huh?

By: chandraryan

chandraryan — Mon, 03 May 2010 20:17:05 +0000

I’m glad you were able to overcome a difficult relationship and turn it into a positive in your own family dynamics. That’s something a lot of people struggle with so you should definitely be proud.

By: chandraryan

chandraryan — Mon, 03 May 2010 20:08:53 +0000

That’s a great one. I can’t remember all the times I’ve gone off course because I was trying to please other people instead of being true to myself. Thanks for sharing it with us.

By: chandraryan

chandraryan — Mon, 03 May 2010 20:07:44 +0000

Oh yeah, I’m a firm believer in the “guarding your tongue” one. There’s nothing worse than saying something in anger and then having it come back on you after everything’s settled down.

By: Fedora

Fedora — Mon, 03 May 2010 19:44:20 +0000

My parents taught me to be generous because no matter how little we think we have, we still have enough to share. It’s something I’m trying to teach my kids now–we’ve got a lot more than I remember us having growing up, and the same principle still applies; generosity is a good way to live

Thanks for sharing and for the contest, Chandra! Congrats on Dragonborne’s release!