The moment we set a goal, we open ourselves up to criticism.

nicole wilkins, ms figure olympia

I posted this photo of Nicole Wilkins, the current Ms. Figure Olympia on Facebook yesterday and stated this was my goal.  Assumptions were made immediately and the next thing I knew a friend was hammering on me about how I can’t let this define me, while some douchebag on Facebook was hitting me up to supply me with steroids.  WTF?  SERIOUSLY?

My physique doesn’t define who I am.  It never has.  The fact of the matter is, I’ve wanted a physique like this JUST FOR ME for over 20 years.  Unfortunately I got involved with men who were all too happy to tell me I was physically unattractive and overweight, but whenever I came close to a physique like this, they felt it was equally unattractive.  (It wasn’t until just this year that a man actually told me I was “beautiful” and I was so upset by it I had to pull over to the side of the road until I stopped crying!)  So I lived for a long time in damned-if-I-do-and-damned-if-I-don’t land.  The problem was I had the wrong people in my life.  I knew what I wanted but what they wanted was a subservient woman who stayed at home, attracted no attention and quietly let them ogle beautiful women because she felt completely inadequate.  Yeah, thanks to Al Anon, I’ve dealt with my codependency issues and no longer include people like that in my life.  The fact of the matter is I am a woman, a veteran, a mother, a writer, a multi-published novelist, a magazine owner, a Taurus, a single woman and a Texan.  NONE of those things define me.  There is no one word that will ever describe who I am except perhaps “Undeniable”.  I think for myself and have my own goals and aspirations.  Nobody has the right or permission to take those from me.

As for the steroid stud…

Steroids have not been and never will be part of my plan.  I want to build strong, beautiful muscle and sculpt myself to the form God gave me, not Frito Lay.  With the right nutrition and exercise I’ll do just that.

Goals are meant as guiding beacons.  Sometimes we reach them, sometimes we don’t, but we’re always better for having had them.

Success is a journey, not a destination.