Seriously, confidence can get you pretty much whatever you want. That and being authentically yourself.
If you want to take any aspect of your life to the next level, boosting your confidence is one of the best ways to do it.
What Confidence Really Means
If you have ever met an alpha, or anyone who just seems to have everything under control, then you might have noticed that they are normally very confident. The truth is that the whole reason they appear so successful is that confidence. Confidence sends a powerful signal – it says ‘I consider myself to be a catch’.
Speaking in evolutionary terms, confidence suggests that you are a good potential mate, or a superior competitor. Even if someone is short, poorly dressed and unappealing – if they are supremely confident in their own value, then it will seem as though they know something you don’t. The assumption we all usually make, unless they come off as pompous or cocky, is that they must have a reason to be that confident.
When someone exudes that sort of cool confidence, we instantly assume that this person is somehow our superior: that we should try to impress them, or try to be more like them. That’s why we gravitate toward confident people, want to date them and want to be liked by them.
Don’t Be a Doormat
A lot of people don’t realize the importance of confidence and they think it is enough to just be nice. They assume that by acting nice, people will like them. I’m here to tell you, as a former “nice girl”, you’re more likely to end up as a doormat.
If you don’t have any self-confidence and you act very nice, you’re going to attract people who like to take advantage of others. Then you become that person that everybody knows they can go to for help, but when your moving day comes, you’re loading that moving van on your own, sweetheart.
Conversely, if you act a little less needy and show yourself to be highly capable and then you chat with someone in a friendly and open manner… then people will be won over by your perceived charm and appeal. This niceness seems much more genuine because you don’t appear as if you need help from everyone.
Just Nice Finishes Last
So ladies, stop trying to win the guy/girl by being nice.
Employees, stop trying to get the job by being self-deprecating.
When you act as though you know your worth and then layer niceness on top of that. That is the winning combination!