The right self-help book or course can be a seriously powerful tool. I have seen it transform people’s lives, my own included. I’ve seen people go from being nervous, shy and unconfident tomore naturally confident, interesting and magnetic.
But I would also argue that things can be taken a little too far. There is so muchself-help literature out there now and so much advice on how we can become better versions of who we are. But is it all constructive?
Self-Help Gone Wrong
While I’ve seen people who have been positively influenced by self-help texts, I’ve also seen people who have been damaged by them.
One of the most common ways this can happen, is when self-help becomes a delay tactic. I call this “procrasturbation”. What I mean by this, is that people can use reading self-help as a means to delay the work they should actually be doing to improve themselves.
In other words: people will buy a self-help book and then will instantlyfeel as though they are making good progress toward being a better version of themselves. They’ve made the effort by buying the book after all, so they pat themselves on the back and keep on reading or just walk around with the book so they look like they’re doing the work.
And then they buy the next book. And the next book. And they feel great about themselves except they haven’t actually changed anything.
Self-help is destructive when it ends up being a delay tactic. If you are only using it in theory and never in practice, then it is hindering rather than helping your progress.
Sometimes it’s Bullshit
The other issue is that self-help can be no help depending on where you get it from.
The problem with the internet is that anyonecan contribute and there is lots of incentive to do so as a way to get views or earn some cash.
The problem then is that you can end up following advice that is based on zero evidence or experience and has been written by someone in no position to be giving such advice.
I’ve spent the last year of my life hunkered down and doing the work. The information I’m sharing is based on the work I’ve done and the tactics I’ve used to make huge changes in my life. I’m also offering that information for free (Kindle Unlimited) just in case my methods aren’t for you.
It’s common knowledge for example that visualizing your goals can help you to get what you want from life. But did you know that this only works if you visualize them in the correct way? I’ve been visualizing goals that have been fizzling for years! LOL But no more.
So, question what you read and don’t ever take one person’s advice as gospel.
Take what resonates with you and USE IT!
Don’t be that guy who carries self-help books around to make himself look woke while wearing glasses with no lenses to look smart. (Seriously, I know that guy.)