What is the thing that is most holding you back from being the best version of you?
You might be tempted to say something along the lines of ‘time’, ‘energy’, ‘money’ or ‘opportunity’. Or perhaps you feel limited by other people?
What if a big part of what’s holding you back is your own sense of self? In other words, you might be limited by your attachment to your current identity and by your eagerness to be seen as consistent and reliable.
Why Consistency is Over-Rated
We all have an attachment to who we think we are. We all have a notion of ourselves and of who othersthink we are as well. For example: you may see yourself as someone lighthearted who is never serious. Or perhaps you see yourself as the dependable person that family and friends can always call on at any hour of the day or night.
We like the sense of continuity that this brings and other people like the fact that they know where they stand with us.
We wouldn’t want to do something that is ‘out of character’ and we don’t want to disappoint anyone either.
But is this really something you should cling to?
Maybe your concept of ‘you’ is outdated?
Adaptability is Key
If the dinosaurs taught us one thing, it is that adaptability is the most important trait when it comes to surviving and thriving. If you can’t adapt, then the world will change around you and you will simply disappear.
With that in mind, what benefit is there for you to refuseto adapt and grow?
Have you ever told someone you’d help them move on a day that you had planned to take for yourself… only to then feel like crap because you can’t go back on what you said?
Have you ever wanted to dress differently, or take a sudden serious tone, but felt enormous pressure from other people’s expectations of you?
This is a Prison
The irony is that it is a lie. The truest version of ‘you’ is simply the ‘you’ that you naturally want to be. The best way to be ‘you’ is to drop everybody else’s expectations and simply act in the moment based on your authentic emotions and feelings.
And remember: biologically, there is no continuity. The person you are now is biologically completely different from the person you were seven years ago.
Accept it and move on authentically.